A friend posted a video on Facebook, asking if the advice contained was good dating advice. I know that dating is hard and it’s particularly hard for people with social skills disorders, but it’s ignorant word vomit like that video that messes it up for everyone! I refuse to link to the video because they certainly do not deserve hits, but here is my response to my friend, unedited and full of shock at the misogynistic stupidity of it. Warning, cursing is involved.:
It's a complete load of crap. Issue one, they only use the term "girls" not "women" which is immediately condescending. Issue two, they are the whole reason people play games with each other! Holy crap!!! Telling people to play games around dating is the EXACT reason so many people have issues with dating!!! I can see waiting a bit and getting to know them a bit before asking them out on a date and making sure the first date is more along the lines of, "Hey, let's get together and hang out doing this thing we both like" rather than "Let me take you out to a nice restaurant and be all proper date like."
They are basically telling you to do exactly all the wrong things. They are morons. They are teaching all the wrong things to perpetuate the completely sick cycle of other humans as commodities.
In reality, if someone I like does not text me back or ditches me (for no reason, pain doesn't count) it's a really strong mark against allowing that human into my life. They are proving they are not dependable and are rude.
I'm listening to it as I type and seriously, these guys are assholes. They are exactly the entire problem that exists with dating. A girl either likes you for who you are or they don't. Playing games might cause some interest in a very unhealthy way at the very beginning of a relationship, but that is a horrid way to start any long term relationship. Unless you plan to keep up being an asshole the whole time you are with them because that is the person they are getting to know, of course.
HOLY CRAP!!! NO ONE wants to be made jealous!!!! WTeverlovingF????
Notice in the comments there is nothing from women? They obviously screen those comments out. So all it looks like is positive feedback.
The one thing I will give them is that touch is a good tester, but the high five things is dumb a hell. Also some people are touch sensitive. I could see if you have known a lady for a bit of time and feel comfortable together placing a hand on an arm and if she doesn't move away that's a good sign, but it sure as hell isn't a sign that you should go in for a kiss. You can only judge that by the person you are with and their body language. If you stand close and they move away they probably don't want to be close, but that could also be space sensitivity (I'm like that with almost all humans), but if they linger close it's most likely a good sign, unless of course they are space blind. And of course if you screw up and do it in a creepy way, no one would want to be close.
Bottom line, be you and act like you and treat them the way you feel it is right to treat them and women will be interested or not. Give them what you would like or what they seem to act like they would like and let it evolve organically not following some stupid "girl" baiting rules. Trust me, no women you would want to spend your time with would want you to act like these guys suggest. Women you would want to spend your time with are not that shallow and superficial... as a general rule.
Basically if you are looking for dating advice and find something that involves “baiting” “girls” or anything involving the term “PUA” in any way shape or form, run the other direction. If all you are after is plunging your stick in any random hole, that’s on you, but if you want an actual relationship with a respectable female human that bull won’t help you find a woman in that category. Even if any of that junk worked on a respectable woman you are getting into a relationship via a lie. You would not want to be with someone that you didn’t love for who they truly were so don’t do that to someone else. Lies are not a good way to begin a relationship. Period. Be YOURSELF! Believe it or not people will love you for who you are. If they don’t, you wouldn’t want to spend your life with them anyway!
P.S. Seriously though, don't strive to be an example of the reason why so many women are extra suspicious about men.
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