Masks and Manliness

I've been thinking about "manliness" and the whole "hold my beer!" mindset. I see fewer men than women wearing masks properly (or at all) in public. I've seen enough commentary to know that some guys think (in a very paraphrased for public consumption way) that wearing masks isn't "manly." This hurt my brain for a bit.

I think I get it now though. I think it's part of how toxic masculinity is affecting our men. They've been taught that to be "manly" you cannot show fear even in the face of terrifying things. You need to be able to work an 80 hr work week, pay all the bills, gun down all the baddies, chug a 12 pack, burp the alphabet backwards and then face down a charging lion, assured by your own male superiority that you WILL WIN! NO FEAR!!!


If you were raised steeped in this toxic stew of fear, even healthy respectful fear, equating to weakness then it makes sense to not wear a mask. It makes sense to want to reopen before safety measures are in place. You are the bread winner. You are the protector. You HAVE to be safe and prevail because any other option means you are weak and you can't be a guy and be weak...

It's so sad how much damage our culture has done to our men.